Antonin Nikolaevich Dolohov (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
alt_antonin) wrote2015-04-02 12:13 am
alt_antonin) wrote2015-04-02 12:13 am
Private message to Lana
I've asked the office to send Mr Marvolo's replacement ID card directly to me, my dear, and when it arrives I'll make sure the elves simply deliver it to him and it will be his own decision what to happen past that point; if he runs into problems for not having it, that will be his own choice.
I know how incredibly stressful it can be when the little darlings don't obey -- and you have been doing a lovely job with them -- and I know how easy it is to get emotionally overinvolved in the situation when one of them winds up defying you. Particularly when it is Mr Marvolo, who redefines 'stubborn', and with whom the question of punishment is difficult. It's so very easy for matters to escalate to the point where we find ourselves doing things we did not intend, simply because no one involved wanted to back down, isn't it? (I have found myself in such straits many times before.)
Still: next time something like this happens, I would prefer for you to call for me, or send Mr Marvolo to me, and I will take care of matters further. He has been feeling his way around his adolescent rebellion and looking for a route into adulthood, and I would rather not give him more reasons to rail against what he sees as senseless bureaucracy. (Well. I would rather we not have to deal with the problem of a student we cannot punish and cannot dissuade, but thankfully, that will cease being a problem in another few months.)
I know how incredibly stressful it can be when the little darlings don't obey -- and you have been doing a lovely job with them -- and I know how easy it is to get emotionally overinvolved in the situation when one of them winds up defying you. Particularly when it is Mr Marvolo, who redefines 'stubborn', and with whom the question of punishment is difficult. It's so very easy for matters to escalate to the point where we find ourselves doing things we did not intend, simply because no one involved wanted to back down, isn't it? (I have found myself in such straits many times before.)
Still: next time something like this happens, I would prefer for you to call for me, or send Mr Marvolo to me, and I will take care of matters further. He has been feeling his way around his adolescent rebellion and looking for a route into adulthood, and I would rather not give him more reasons to rail against what he sees as senseless bureaucracy. (Well. I would rather we not have to deal with the problem of a student we cannot punish and cannot dissuade, but thankfully, that will cease being a problem in another few months.)